Mother's Day has become a tricky day for me. I am lucky that I am a mom to a wonderful little girl that brings more into my life than I could have ever imagined. She was very much wanted and is very much loved...even on the really hard days. But, I didn't always feel so lucky....and that was only magnified on a day like Mother's Day.
It feels like a long time ago that Joe and I were struggled to start our family but I won't ever forget how helpless and sad that journey was. Some days were harder than others...Mother's Day was one of the hardest. Like I needed another reminder that I wasn't yet a mother. So, now that I am a mother it is kind of hard to celebrate this day when I know so many others are doing anything but. They are going to avoid logging onto Facebook to see all the Mother's Day posts. They may avoid going to church. Or, they may have to suck it up, knowing that later on there is a shower with their name on it where they can cry all they need to.
Hallmark has made motherhood seem like a certain kind thing although, it is rarely that simple. Tomorrow is going to be a very hard day for some people that are near and dear to my heart. I found this poem on the internet that I think is very fitting... I wish it had the poets name and I wish that I could remember where I got it so I could give it credit.
To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you
To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you
To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you
To those who experienced loss this year through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you
To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.
To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you
To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you
To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you
To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you
To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience
To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst
To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you
And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you
This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.
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